Making the Transition From Discipline to Commitment
How we think, feel, and act at one stage of development in our lives is different from how we approach situations later in life. As a child, I related to my parents as authority figures and (for the most part!) did what they told me. Later, in young adulthood, I related to my parents as role models and flexibly integrated parts of them into who I was becoming. Still later, I became a parent myself and could relate to my own parents as peers and as valued family members offering mutual support. As we grow, our roles evolve . Similarly, there was a time early in adulthood when dating was fun and there were lots of people I wanted to meet. If a relationship became more serious, I often had to hold myself back and rely on discipline to not go after other possibilities and opportunities. When I met my wife-to-be, Margie, I recognized early on that there was something special in our relationship. The idea of possibly losing that or watering it ...